Here’s a story for you,
Last week I met a man, we’ll call him “M“, who was dealing with a lot of regret. The hopes and dreams M had for his daughter didn’t pan out, resulting in a teen pregnancy. The desires and plans he had for his grandson were dashed by a jail sentence when the boy was 21 years old.
M was so hopeless. He told me he wondered what things would be like if he had made different decisions.
In the few minutes we chatted, I could see the weight of regret weighing M down. I reminded him that his grandson made the decisions that landed him where it has. His daughter made her choices, despite M‘s requests that she not sleep with her then-boyfriend. M felt regret over things that were out of his control. The only thing I felt I could do was pray for M and his family and remind him that there is still hope for them.
Whether they are decisions we have made or that have been made for us, we all experience some level of regret over life’s choices. Please remember that those choices do not have to be the end for you. There is still hope. There is still time to make a change, get a second chance or ask for forgiveness. Do what needs to be done. Don’t get stuck in a cycle of regret, beating yourself up or tearing yourself down over the past. Make the change.
Seek God’s Will:
Most of us have asked questions about our future and wondered if God has a definite plan or opinion in the matter. With that in mind, here is some good news: God is vitally interested in your life, and He does want to lead you in your decisions.
Jesus called his followers friends (see John 15:15). As God’s friend you already have an ‘inside track’ in discovering God’s will for your life. It is called the Bible. There you will find God’s general will for your life (such as putting God first in all you do and following God’s guidelines for marriage, relationships etc.), as well as some principles to follow when seeking his specific direction in your life. In the end, finding God’s will comes down to living out what you read in the Bible and then living by faith. Here are six steps you can take as you seek God’s will.
- Unconditionally surrender your life. Certain conditions must be met if you want to know God’s will for your life (see Romans 12: 1 – 2).
- Realize that God has a plan for your life. Your life has purpose and meaning, and God wants to reveal it to you (Ephesians 1:7 – 9).
- Act upon what God has already revealed in scripture. God has already given us some specific guidelines to follow in his Word (1 Thessalonians 4:1 – 8).
- Trust God completely. There is nothing more reassuring than entrusting an unknown future to a known God (Philippians 4:6 – 7)
- Listen to God’s voice. Sometimes God speaks to us in a quiet voice (John 10:27).